Such a Gift

The episode on letting go of resentment carried such a profound and impactful message. It spoke so clearly to the very core of my once broken heart. With the message, and actionable guidance, I received the gift of hope in what felt like a hopeless, unsalvageable marriage. The changes I presented in me, modeled the gifts to my husband. He softened and came to me, to try. It opened up the doors enough for us to let some light in and begin showing one another compassion and support as we healed what we had broken, and learned to love one another, respect and cherish each other, not in our old ways, but in our “second marriage” with each other. And the love, desire, compassion, intimacy, appreciation, and joint enthusiastic participation in our marriage brought a new level of curiosity and commitment, and passion for each other. There was no longer and edge of “or else” to our tone in every conversation. Someone wasn’t always on the way out. We were no longer “renters” in our marriage, able to opt out of our contract if we didn’t feel like trying anymore. Now we’re “owners” in a marriage we built. No one is on their heels ready to flee. No one is going anywhere. Especially when things are hard. And no more resentment or contempt. Just love and security.